Friday, August 1, 2014

Know-it-all?

A few weeks ago, my colleague and I were chatting and she was talking about the fact that there are some things are brought to her attention or meetings she's invited to where she knows little or nothing about the subject matter.

I smiled and said that's fine because I "thrive" in not knowing it all. Now that's not to say that I don't know anything...I know some things but I don't know everything. I believe that not knowing it all gives one (me) room to grow.

On the other hand, while it's ok not to know everything I believe that it is very important to know what you do know well.

In professional & personal circles, people have more respect for those who "know-it-well" than those who carry around as if they know-it-all.

In the corporate world, there's quite a bit of talk about specializing in a body of knowledge to become a Subject Matter Expert (SME) or a Technical Authority (TA). Did you know that those acronyms also stand for "Small & Medium Enterprises" and "Turn-Around" respectively? Small & Medium Enterprises aspire to get bigger and Turn-Arounds are meant to improve the performance of the equipment - these are pointers to the fact that it's better to know-it-well and keep learning more, growing and getting better as against capping your willingness & ability to learn. Be a know-it-well not a know-it-all.

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Are you an Eagle or Sheep or an EWE?

I smiled when I found this quote:

“Eagles we see fly alone; and they are but sheep which always herd together”
Sir Philip Sidney

It brings the 2 distinct attributes we must have. The Bible talks about how we are like eagles and sheep - so we need to be both.


If you look closely at the name of this blog you'll see EWE which stands for 2 things for me:
Ewe: is a female sheep - which all Christian women are - we're the sheep of God's pasture.
 
EWE - Eagle With Evidence
 
Empowered women excel but are not satisified with excelling alone. They also empower other women. So as eagles they go high in life and also take the time to help others in their community.
To be both and eagle and a sheep, you need to first be comfortable with your success because if you're not, you can't confidently show/guide someone else on the way to excel. And if you can't or don't guide others to execl then you're not really a success...
 
So are you an Ewe and/or EWE? You should strive to be both...and so help you God.

Please read: http://empowered-women-excel.blogspot.ca/2012/10/reach-out.html

Tuesday, July 1, 2014

2 tips for the 2nd half of the year...

Never work just for money or for power.
They won't save your soul or help you sleep at night.
~ Marian Wright Edelman
 
 
Be absolutely determined to enjoy what you do. ~ Gerry Sikorski
 
Personally, I believe that if you don't enjoy what you do then you should look for something you enjoy doing and do it...otherwise you'll live an unhappy life.
 

Sunday, June 15, 2014

The Imposter Syndrome: Why Owning Your Success is Critical to Your Career


A lot has been written about how we accept and attribute success to ourselves. I read and couldn't resist sharing this article by Nneka Orji 

The Imposter Syndrome: Why Owning Your Success is Critical to Your Career*
 
Surely someone more experienced or more knowledgeable should be in this position instead of me.

These feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt – which some of us have experienced throughout our career –can be harmless. However, if they present themselves frequently, leading us to frequently doubt our abilities, they can have a detrimental impact on our careers.

Thursday, May 15, 2014

Go for Gold

It's common to have people encourage others to "Go for Gold" i.e. aim to achieve the highest possible honour or position. While it is very good to have high ambitions, it is also good to remember that "not all that glitters is gold."

I've always known that "not all that glitters is not gold" and that was again reconfirmed after I read this rather thought-provoking article: http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/print/2012/07/why-women-still-can-8217-t-have-it-all/9020/

Part of the pressure of "having (& holding on to) it all" is the expectation of "who," more like "what," women need to become to get ahead in the Corporate world. The truth is no matter how high-paying or high-flying your job is, if you're not yourself, you can't be happy.

It then behooves on each person - man and woman - to determine what their "gold" and goal in life is. Each person needs to define their own "all" by themselves.

Recently, I started reading an interesting book - actually, the title was interesting which was why I bought it: "The Life Ready Woman - Thriving in a Do-it all world."* I smiled when I got to page 36 where the same timeless question: "Can you have it all?" was posed.

I connected with the multi-dimensional conclusion(s):
  1. In some ways, we may be able to "have it all" over the course of our lifetime - but not all at the same time.**
  2. We can't have it all - all at the same time.**
  3. When we try to do everything, sometimes everything gets hurt.***
As you go for gold in life,  we all need to remember that one (wo)man's trash is another (wo)man's treasure. Know and focus on what matters for you and go for it...
 
References:
* by Shaunti Feldhahn and Robert Lewis
** Page 36
*** Page 37

Thursday, May 1, 2014

Sustainable success...

Success is something that can be elusive...and for some, previous success is not a guarantee for future success. As I thought about it, I decided to look up (and share) a few success quotes...and I've added my comments in brown font.

In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.
~ Bill Cosby
Success is focusing the full power of all you are on what you have a burning desire to achieve.
~ Wilfred Peterson

Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. ~ Winston Churchill
 
Success comes in cans; failure in can'ts
~ Wilfred Peterson 

I very fondly remember my son's teacher who always encouraged and challenged her students to convert their "I can't" statements to "I can try" assertions...

In order to succeed you must fail, so that you know what not to do the next time. ~ Anthony J. D'Angelo, The College Blue Book
Success has made failures of many men. ~ Cindy Adams
So we need to be careful not to let success get to our heads and disengage our hearts.

As you climb the ladder of success, be sure it's leaning against the right building. ~H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
The other thing is to leave and even improve the ladder - "polish" it so others can also climb. Remember that as Nancy Barcus succinctly puts it: 
The closer one gets to the top,
the more one finds there is no "top."
So as you aim for higher and greater things, make our unlimited God, not any man or system, your “limit” - only then will you have sustainable success.


 

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Are you hard working or hardly working?

The question is easily answered by the fable shared on the 1st day of February*  - the eagle was bent on working hard while the chicken was fine in the world of "hardly working."

An Empowered Woman is one who knows the 5 Ws and 1 H of working hard and well. She knows Why, When and Where she needs to do What she has to do. She’s so good that she also knows How to do what she needs to do and Who can help her accomplish that and even How to get those resources to work for her.
I know that there is this old saying: “Hard work never killed anyone.” While I agree that there is some truth in it, it is not entirely true from my perspective. You may have noticed people who work very, very hard – doing the wrong thing or the right thing the wrong way, wrong time, wrong place and with the wrong people.

Saturday, March 15, 2014

Short & Sweet?

A lot of times in Corporate circles, you hear the phrase "Short & Sweet." A lot of people, including me, like meetings, conferences and speeches that are "short & sweet" - yes, swift and straight to the point. When this topic came to me, it also hit me that a lot of people would want to apply this "short & sweet" phrase to many areas of life so I started asking if there were any areas where we should NOT use the phrase.

You may already know where I'm headed, if not, I'll try to be short & sweet about it.
For me, this is a black-and-white issue.
Short & Sweet does not apply to dressing. Short - top, bottom or dress - no matter how sweet the colours may be, show too much & are inappropriate for the professional women that we are. Showing too much empowers others to look down on you and I'm sure you never want that to happen to you - or anyone you're mentoring for that matter. Be a mentor in words and "wear"...

A truly empowered woman helps others focus on her brain not her body...
that's one short & sweet way to excelling and being an example to others.