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Interested?

A few months ago as we were preparing to head out for a morning walk, my husband started offering me a gadget to assist me. He then said, "If you are going to be doing this, you need to invest in some things." I fully agree(d) with him.

As we walked, the thought that crossed my mind was "Interest inspires investment!"

What's your balance?

We're now right into summer time...a time when some people slow down and when some don't.

The workplace is riddled with material and meetings about work-life balance.

Work-life balance means different things to different people. The important thing is that without life, you cannot work. So ensure that you take care to live* not just work.



*See post on "I live"

It's all up to you...

Over the years, and more recently when coaching my clients, I have heard people incessantly compare themselves to others - in various areas of life. Well, I have even caught myself doing that!

The point of life is that everyone has a unique "life-map", such that even identical twins cannot have identical lives. There is no basis for comparison. Comparison is a total waste of time because it makes you expend energy competing with others who are steadily improving themselves.

If you must compare yourself to and compete with anyone else, compare yourself to yourself - daily.


Who you are, or who you are not is all up to you. You have control over who you are and who you become. Look in the "mirror" and make the necessary adjustments to your attributes and attitudes.

Action attracts attention

It is easy to complain that nothing (good) comes your way - in your career and life. The question I have for such people is what are you doing? Of course it is easier to complain than to take action however complaining does not reduce or remove the "dis-ease" (or unease, if you prefer).

One good answer I have heard to that question is:
"I'm taking baby steps." Actually, it is a great answer because "baby steps" are steps. And every step is usually a set of "Specific Tasks Evidencing Progress" - and progress is what you need to move from where you are currently (that you don't want to and should not be) to where you should be (and want to be).

The other thing about taking baby steps is that it is always forward-focussed. No matter how many times a toddler falls, he/she gets up and keeps moving. I am yet to see the toddler that gives up on walking because he/she fell one too many times - and I'm sure I will never see any such toddler. Or…

Learnings from my sunglasses...

A few months ago, as I put on one of my favourite sunglasses I smiled as I looked at the "screwstopper" on the left side.

Mum-powered

I'm Mum-powered!

My Mum (of blessed memory) always had something to counter every "I can't". Such that decades after I last heard her words, I'm very confident because my Mum said I could...

Today, I'm celebrating every Mother and Mother-figure. You are blessings to many of us on so many levels. Thank you for who you are and all you do.




"I live"...

...I mean "I leave."

Start!

Yes, just start!
This is something I have been struggling with for a few months - actually I'm sure it's been for a few years or maybe even more than a few. Well, in the last couple of months, I've heard people say:
"Start before you're ready."
In looking up the author of this quote, I found and really like how Marie Forleo put it:
"The key to success is to start before you're ready."It's one of the best pieces of advice I have heard in a long time...to access success you need to start.

We were raised in and are conditioned by the "Ready, Set, Go" mindset. When I say "start before you are ready", I'm not saying that you should start without any preparation - that would be really unwise and totally disrespectful to yourself and to others. What I'm saying that it (whatever you are starting) doesn't need to be perfect before you start. You can only improve on and perfect something that you have started i.e. tested…

Don't be fooled...

...any one who doesn't LEAD is not a leader

I have said it countless times that everyone is and can be a leader. You do not need to have a title to be a leader. With that as our backdrop, this post will focus on 4 ways I believe that leaders show up.

Live in and enjoy the moment:
Too many of us are rushing from one task to the other... Always moving quickly to the next thing. I agree that time does not wait for anyone however, enjoying the time you are in is what makes memories. How many times have you gone somewhere and when others are recounting the experience you wonder if you were even there with them? The common saying "stop and smell the roses" comes to mind. Leaders take charge. This includes knowing when and how to slow down to live in and enjoy the moment - and they encourage those around them to do the same.


Enable others to be their best:  The world has become more and more competitive. It has become so bad that in some situations people - including their manag…

The Act...

...and art of leading
When this topic dropped in my heart, I took a few weeks to mull over it. As I started writing it up, it seemed best to first define these words:

Act: "take action; do something. (verb); a thing done; a deed (noun)."*

Art: "the expression or application of human creative skill and imagination, typically in a visual form such as painting or sculpture, producing works to be appreciated primarily for their beauty or emotional power."*

A lot has been writing about leadership and it is a very important topic in my mind and experience.

There's the ongoing debate on whether leaders are born or made. In my opinion, everyone is a leader - it has nothing to do with whether you have a formal title or not. Taking it a step further, each of us can (and should) develop our leadership skills to become better leaders - of our selves and/or of others.

The ACT of leadership highlights the importance of doing something - anything to become a better person - and/or …

Life happens - now what?

“Life happens” – that’s a phrase that I have heard so many times in the last 5 or so years and wonder why some people use it as an excuse not to step up and be more.

No one can control what happens to them in life. You can only control your response to what happened to you. You always have a choice to become better or bitter when “negative” things happen to you. The fact that someone else got the job or promotion that you had always wanted is not a reason to become bitter. It should motivate you to keep working towards your purpose in life which is bigger than one job.
Have you ever wondered why you are here – at this time? Why were you not born decades earlier or later? 
“The two most important days in your life are  the day you are born and the day you find out why.”  ~ Mark Twain
Discovering why you were born requires a lot of digging and is hard work. For this valuable work to be rewarding and sustainable, you need to be committed to discovering your purpose and pursuing it with passio…

Show yourself...

...some love

How are you showing up?

This question came to mind as I found the answer to the question: What or who is the source of your strength(s)? It could be a combination of people and situations. And it is important to realize that strengths exist for a reason.

Reverse Mentoring

One thing I have learned being a Leader that is that "The Leader does not know everything" - nor is she/he expected to. Now I know that in reality a lot of supervisors/managers were "promoted" into leadership positions because of their technical knowledge, skills and sometimes tenure in the organization - however that's not what will keep them successful.

Take a deep breath... I'm not saying that you should forget or unlearn what you already know - besides the fact that that's not really possible, they are part of your "foundation" so don't crack it.

All I'm saying is open yourself up to learn more - and new things. There is a sharp difference between Leaders and Managers/Supervisors - and many people including me*, have written about them.

One tip that I have employed which has helped me succeed is "Reverse Mentoring." Huh?! What's that?! Glad you had that reaction...it's exactly the same reaction a Senior Leader had…